My 44 Best Self-Love Affirmations
(and how to use them, even when you hate them)
(and how to use them, even when you hate them)
Our natural state of mind when we were born into this world was one of pure unconditional love towards ourselves and others. But unfortunately, as we age, this blissful state is slowly conditioned out of us with external influential factors from family, education, systems, and the media.
In today’s modern society, we are continuously being influenced by subliminal messaging from every angle – the headlines in the papers, the adverts on our TV’s, the posts on our social media, and the billboards lining our streets. A good deal of this is aimed at negatively influencing our opinions of ourselves, in order to sell us a remedy or cure to make us ‘better’.
Affirmations are one of the most effective methods we have readily available to us, free of charge, to support our journey towards reclaiming that precious and coveted blissful state that is our birthright.
With the use of self-love affirmations, we can transform the hate back into love, the judgment into acceptance, and the criticism into confidence.
Affirmations can help thwart the negative effects of societal conditioning and guide us back onto our natural path of ease, joy and love.
The main pitfall with affirmations is trying to run with them before you can walk.
An example of running with a self-love affirmation would be to dive right in with one such as “I love myself. I really, deeply love myself”. Go on, give it a try. Look up from your screen, place your hand on your heart, and say out loud “I love myself”.
How did it feel? For most of you that would have been quite difficult. Maybe you were saying it through gritted teeth. Maybe you couldn’t get through the whole affirmation at all. Maybe your pesky inner critic piped up with a sarcastic retort such as “No you don’t, you hate yourself, why are you lying?”.
Self-Love affirmations, or all affirmations for that matter, are not going to work as well if you are constantly having to fight your inner critic every syllable of the way.
This leads me to my example of walking before you can run.
So, if “I love myself” is a step too far for you, try a simple alteration such as “I want to love myself. I really deeply want to love myself”. Go on, like before, give it a go. Hand on heart, and speak it out loud.
Now how did that feel? I’m hoping it felt a lot lighter, easier to get through, and put a muzzle on your inner critic.
The trick is to meet yourself where you’re at, wherever that may be, without judgment. Working with yourself, not against. If walking is all you can manage, celebrate that you have discerned where you’re at, instead of beating yourself up for not being able to run yet.
If you are here, reading this post, it means that there is a part of you, small or large, that at the very least wants to love yourself. Therefore, an affirmation containing “want” is likely going to feel more do-able than absolutes.
Equally, you can try phrases such as “I give myself permission to…” and “I choose to…”.
Remember, if any of these don’t work for you, just give them a little tweak in your direction before giving up on them completely e.g. turn “I celebrate all that I am” into “I want to celebrate all that I am”.
1. I love myself unconditionally and without expectation
2. I choose to accept myself fully and completely
3. I am my own best friend
4. I celebrate all that I am
5. I honour and respect myself – my body is a temple
6. I choose to treat myself with kindness and compassion
7. I am (more than) enough, just as I am
8. I am worthy of taking time for myself
9. I have the right to set boundaries and have them respected
10. I give myself permission to be my authentic self
11. I am my own best teacher
12. I value myself and my intuition
13. My worth is not connected to my physical appearance
14. I give myself permission to experience joy
15. I belong to myself, over and above anyone else
16. I am beautiful, inside and out
17. I love, I am love, I am loved
18. I give myself permission to grow and evolve who I am
19. I believe in myself, no matter what
20. I trust myself wholly and completely
21. I am doing my best, and my best is good enough
22. I am my own superpower
23. I matter
24. I am comfortable in my own skin, it is a relief to be myself
25. I am unapologetically me
26. I am perfectly imperfect
27. I am a unique being and can’t be compared to anyone else
28. I am my own rescue
29. I am my biggest fan and vote for my own victory
30. I am open and available for good things
31. I appreciate and acknowledge that I am a gift
32. I am an extraordinary and magnificent being
33. I am whole
34. I fucking rock!
35. I am a badass and I’m smashing it!
36. I am now free to express my message in the world
37. I am proud of my achievements and how far I’ve come
38. I forgive myself
39. I value my own opinion
40. I am worthy of my dreams and desires
41. I feel blessed and see blessings all around me
42. I am a unique and powerful being
43. I am here for you
44. I vow to love, honour, and protect myself, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and cherish always, until death us do part
My invitation to you is to go through my list of Self-Love Affirmations and say them all out loud. As you go, give them all a rating of 1, 2 or 3.
Assign 1’s to all the affirmations that didn’t resonate, the ones that felt heavy and got stuck in your throat. Ascribe a number 3 to the ones that really resonate, that feel light and are easier to say. Then pop a 2 next to all those that felt OK, not quite as light as the 3’s but not nearly as heavy as the 1’s.
Take a second look at all your number 2’s. Are there any that could become number 3’s with a little tweak here or a re-word there? Try starting the affirmation off with “I want to…”, “I give myself permission to…” or “I choose to…”, and see if that makes a difference to how it sounds when spoken out loud.
Once you are finished, you now have a collection of powerful, and more importantly resonant, affirmations to support you on your self-love journey.
Sharing is caring!
Once you are clear on your favourite self-love affirmations, I would love it if you shared them in the comments below! This will support those who might be struggling, to get even more inspiration for their own affirmations.